Both Zenocrate and TomatoBoobs have a similar vein of thought to mine. The partners I have dedicated to for life have decided, on their own, how they want to be introduced by me to others. Even though I have had a ceremony with both individuals, the person I am married to on paper is my “spouse”. My other partner is my “significant other”. I can’t label one as more primary than the other because we make decisions as a family; not two couples.