I have not used those terms but realistically that is what the relationships were all about. Both relations were where she pursued others on a regular basis, in other words each of my marriages were that way where she/they could date men as they wished. I chose not to date others but still had some liaisons where me and certain men would engage in adventures, so that is why I am saying we had primary (each one of us was our primary) and secondary relationships were where she exercised her right for extra marital (what some would call them) relationships. We both enjoyed the fact we were not indulging in situations where we had to hide things from the other or lie one to the other. I hope this helps in the discussion.