I was in high school when I had my first actual fun bondage experiences. My high school girlfriend was a total head case when it came to self-help books. The worst one I had to pretend to like was, “I’m OK, You’re OK.”

So anyhow, when her mother bought “Joy of Sex”, my girlfriend had to read it. And then, thank God, she was very eager to show it to me after she stole it for a day or two.

I was astounded to see a chapter on Bondage. It’s still one of the best things I’ve ever read about Bondage as a fun game and as an orgasm enhancer.

I pointed to that chapter and said, “It says right here that you need to be tied up.”

She laughed and to my great surprise, she said, “That sounds super exciting.”

Of course I had already been thinking about this for years, and the chapter in the book said that technique was extremely important. So one day we went to my parents’ lake house after school and played around with me tying her up. It was a big success.

I tied her hands behind her back and her feet together. We hadn’t actually had sex at this point, but I had brought her to orgasm several times with my fingers.

So once she was all tied up, I started messing with her. She was fine with it. In fact she was astounded at the extreme level of emotion and arousal she felt. So I fingered her to orgasm very slowly, just like the book said. Win win.

So of course that became one of our most valuable “shared experiences.” We messed around with it every chance we got. I added some other ropes to my repertoire and we found that she liked a nice thickish cleave gag. We messed around with time limits during which the captive is, in fact, an actual captive during that time. We became pretty decent at simulating the reality of a kidnap scenario.

I urge all of you to check out the Bondage chapter in the “Joy of Sex.” It’s all there.