Unfortunately though some swinging clubs can get pretty pretentious after they’ve been open for a while. My bf & I are looking to get back into it as well and cant decide how best to go about it. We were both in it before with different partners and have different ideas of what would be an easier/lower pressure way to delve back in. He’s used to playing directly with 1 couple that you meet from a site whereas I find parties to be a very low pressure way to mingle with like-minded folk and get a feel for any chemistry you might have with them. Do keep in mind though that it’s much more difficult finding chemistry between 4 people rather than 2 and if you don’t set up some kind of tell/safeword or way to indicate you’re not into someone you could end up in a “taking 1 for the team” situation which will likely put you off trying it again. But I would go into whatever situation with the idea that you don’t play unless everyone is into it. Don’t let other people or your inexperience expressing your needs/wants to put you in a situation you aren’t comfortable with.