Not sure this helps anybody else, but I met my partner at the fitness center. I had just finished my workout, was sweating like a pig, and this really hot guy came right up to me out of nowhere and said, “You’re probably the kind of girl who needs to be tied up from time to time.” I blushed a million shades of red and quietly said “yes”. Turned out my girlfriend (who knew my interests) had set the whole thing up when she realized he had been checking me out for quite a while. Maybe the generic lesson is to keep your friends informed of your interests.