I can’t comment much on the mental aspects of gender thinking differences.

As for presentation, this is less of concern. If I want a person’s chest squeezed enough to make blood flow make their nipples sensitive, I am going to tie with that goal.

It is always worth remembering that it is often much less socially acceptable for a man to appear publicly in bondage compared to a woman.
I will agree with elements of the above. Some scenes are very male top/female bottom oriented and people get all flustered and confused. You can have event organizers and other folks act with less respect and consideration. It sucks and drives male bottoms that I respect to play in private even at kink events.

As for “weight” as a factor. It is a factor for both genders (or any person). Ditto for height disadvantage, person volume and strength factors. Lifting someone who is thin, shorter and some low weight is relatively easy. When you have to move away from them, use pulleys and cause things like carabiners or rings to angle, the forces change significantly along with the risks.

There are also muscle, flexibility, fat tissue and nerve exposure issues. I have played with some extremely flexible “male” bodies. Again, it doesn’t matter on gender.

In other words, it isn’t a gender given the huge range of bodies. It is a knowledge and skill aspect that is poorly understood in the rope world.