“As long as those you play with understand this. Otherwise you become an anecdotal account of an encounter that went wrong, with the story-teller mistaking your sadistic motivation for amateur behavior.”
More likely she doesn’t actually play.

“…….the first few are great, they apply to being whipped all across the board. the last few are kind of unnecessary and don’t apply, some people, myself included enjoy extensive, intense pain when being whipped, though that may not be good for someone just starting out, its what many people like. anyway enough of my ramblings, the first 3 rules are fantastic, the last are less than, they should be included as mere suggestions.”

Thank you for that nice, well thought out replay. I do think I should NOT have said “rules” or at least said “rules for me”.

I do enjoy something intense, at least by my standards, something that will at least make me cry. And maybe therein lies the problem. I need complete trust if I’m going to do something intense. Maybe as I gain more experience that will be less necessary.