March 3, 2015 at 5:12 am #3094
So sir recently bought some new toys, a set of some lovely hand made floggers ranging from rabbits fur to suade then onto leather.
Any advice on how I can get better at taking a beating so that I can please him better? Normally I’m fine but I get a bigger sting from floggers. Cheers in advance.March 3, 2015 at 5:18 am #3095
A talk with your Sir might help since he’s the one wielding the floggers. You might need a more gradual buildup with a solid chunk of warmup time before getting into the heavier impact in order to allow your endorphin levels to build.March 3, 2015 at 5:21 am #3096
Your will to please your sir is commendable, however, I believe it is up to him to learn how to use them properly and safely first, learn everything about you second(w/negotiations), and pushing your limits should be last(w/proper warm up and ramp down). In my opinion….
There are many other variables to consider also ie.time of the month, sum of your work week, physical or mental ailments, just to name a few….but there’s alot more.
I hope that helps 🙂March 3, 2015 at 5:23 am #3097
Two things that have helped me in my desire to take more during impact play as a bottom had been learning/ remembering to take deep breaths along with my normal moans/ sounds (so finding a breathing pattern that works for you might help you) and also learning to “let go”/ relax mid mind and muscles and just the the pain happen. This has definitely allowed me to take a greater intensity as a bottom than before, which has lead to greater enjoyment/ release for me during impact scenes.
Your experience may vary, but I just thought Id share mine.
Oh, also don’t beat yourself up if you sometimes can’t handle the normal intensity you two play at. I’ve found that some days or when I get tired my pain tolerance gets much lower than normal and I know many other people experience this as well.March 3, 2015 at 5:28 am #3098
I would add that when you talk to your Sir (as I’m sure you will), see if time expended or number of strokes can be limited and built up over time. I started taking short floggings of as little as 24 strokes and am now at about 84, my goal is to get past 150. The more you can take, the heavier the floggers he can use and the more pleased he will be.
As for the sub-space, I find mentally counting helps (also useful if he asks for a count as a test!). Hair pulling, clothes pegs on sensitive areas… there are all kinds of distractions that can be used (lying on a bed of thumb tacks really helps)… you get the idea!
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