March 3, 2015 at 5:30 am #3099
Some rules for a girl before she submits to the whip:
1. She must be absolutely sure of the man intentions.
2. She must have perfect confidence in his judgment.
3. The pain must be deliberately inflicted, not accidental.
4. It must be inflicted in kindness and for her own improvement, not in anger or with any revengeful feelings.
5. The pain must not be excessive and must be a ‘tidy’ pain; i.e., there must be no mutilation, cutting, etc.
6. Last, one would have to feel very sure of one’s own influence over the man.March 3, 2015 at 5:34 am #3100
#6 – ‘Influence” in this case I believe would be the ability to stop a scene or direct the flogging to an appropriate / desired level.
I was once whipped by a woman who would not stop. Fortunately she was not very good at bondage and I was able to catch the whip and stop the scene.
Note: She was total novice off of ‘Craig’s List’. That was my bad and I did it for the adventure. Then again I’m a guy in fairly good shape. I don’t recommend this to people in general.March 3, 2015 at 5:37 am #3101
#4 – I don’t whip a man to “improve” him. I am applying the whip because he enjoys receiving pain and I enjoy inflicting it. Also, as a sadist, I don’t know if I’m especially “kind” while doing so; that likely depends on your viewpoint. I do agree with not playing while angry, though.March 3, 2015 at 5:38 am #3102
i think its a good list for a NEW submissive, but like others said number 4,5 and 6 really depends on who you are, and the type of thing you like, but for a new sub who has never experienced being whipped it would probably be best for the person whipping them to be kind about it, but it doesn’t really apply to all people who enjoy being whipped. Also when making “rules” you need to remember that other people who play don’t always do it that way, it would be better as suggestions instead Rules, that way you don’t spark up a disagreement you don’t want to get yourself in, or get a shit ton of reply’s solely about your “Rules” being incorrect, that being said if you are trying to word things so they can apply to others make sure they actually make sense and are easily understood, 6 while it is good, is a bit hard for people to understand. the first few are great, they apply to being whipped all across the board. the last few are kind of unnecessary and don’t apply, some people, myself included enjoy extensive, intense pain when being whipped, though that may not be good for someone just starting out, its what many people like. anyway enough of my ramblings, the first 3 rules are fantastic, the last are less than, they should be included as mere suggestions.March 3, 2015 at 5:43 am #3103
“As long as those you play with understand this. Otherwise you become an anecdotal account of an encounter that went wrong, with the story-teller mistaking your sadistic motivation for amateur behavior.”
More likely she doesn’t actually play.
“…….the first few are great, they apply to being whipped all across the board. the last few are kind of unnecessary and don’t apply, some people, myself included enjoy extensive, intense pain when being whipped, though that may not be good for someone just starting out, its what many people like. anyway enough of my ramblings, the first 3 rules are fantastic, the last are less than, they should be included as mere suggestions.”
Thank you for that nice, well thought out replay. I do think I should NOT have said “rules” or at least said “rules for me”.
I do enjoy something intense, at least by my standards, something that will at least make me cry. And maybe therein lies the problem. I need complete trust if I’m going to do something intense. Maybe as I gain more experience that will be less necessary.
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