July 29, 2014 at 8:04 pm #2638
I’m new here. My gf & I have been into bdsm for sometime, and are now getting curious about swinging, group sex, play parties… the list goes on. So I have a very elementary question for you:
Do you precieve a difference between an open relationship and swinging? And if so, what is it?
This group has already been so useful! I’d love to participate more, I just want to make sure I’ve got my semantics down.
Thanks everybody!July 29, 2014 at 8:07 pm #2639
Well our rule is that we only swing together,so its a shared experience. And we are both bi/bicurious so we seek out situations where everyone can play with everyone. We don’t play on our own so we consider ourselves monogamish 🙂 we enjoy the shared experience of othersJuly 29, 2014 at 8:09 pm #2640
There is definitely a difference for us. When we swing it might be all in the same room, or might be separate rooms, but it is still swapping partners. As an open relationship we date individuals separately. I might have a guy that I see on one night and he might have a date on another. For us it was a matter of convenience, we don’t have to get a sitter if we go out separately. And since we have no jealousy issues it seems to work for us.July 29, 2014 at 8:10 pm #2641
I was looking at one article that described Swinging as a conservative venture while Open Relationships was more of a liberal one.
when looking at it I could see the difference. Open relationships can be more about being free and unrestricted but still attached.
Swinging can be more about having a fun dinner with the neighbors like any other dinner party only it ends in fucking each other.
If these were the definitions I would presume that polyamory would be defined as an arrangement based on love and relationships as opposed to fucking and could apply to any kind of configuration.July 29, 2014 at 8:12 pm #2642
I see a difference but because it applies to my relationship now, kinda.
My husband is fine with swinging. Meaning: I can sleep with another man only if that other man’s wife/gf is going to be sleeping with my husband.
My husband is not comfortable with me being with another man in any other way.
We have a 3/4 open relationship. Meaning: my husband can sleep with anyone he wants. I only have free reign to sleep with other women.
I guess it’s all in your definition of the terms.July 29, 2014 at 8:13 pm #2643
My personal definition:
“Open relationship” is an umbrella term for all sorts of relationships such as swinging, polyamory, cuckolding, etc. Any relationship that is committed in one manner or another that isn’t closed-ended (monogamous), is an open relationship.
Swinging is just one type of open relationship.
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