I had my love/sub tied to chair once when the phone rang.
I removed her gag and let her talk as it was a police officer that was calling regarding a non kink related situation lol. The whole time she remained tied tightly to the chair.
Fun times.

I’m sure everyone is different,but here is my 2 cents.

First you have to find another couple you are both physically attracted to. I don’t know how many times my lady and I looked at a couple and went “Oh,she’s cute,we could have some fun with her but her man is flat nasty.”. So you need to make sure both of you find both partners of the other couple attractive and acceptable

Next,you have to get to know them. Chat with them and discuss things you like and what you don’t like. My lady will give head,but I’m the only one allowed to cum in her mouth. You have to communicate things like that.

If you have never done any kind of activity like this,it might be a good idea to start with just same room sex. Then you can progress to just the girls playing together,soft swapping and then try full swap once you are comfortable

I’ve been a swinger for almost ten years, and am new to the kink side of things. We like to go to one of the local swing clubs sometimes, but we prefer house parties because it’s a bit more intimate but still possibility for a lot of action. I’d suggest joining a swinger site (we use SLS) and seeing what’s around you. Some people will be comfortable playing on the 1st date, some will want to meet and talk for awhile first. Find out what you are comfortable with as a couple, then let other potential couples know as well. Some reserve kissing only for their partners because it is felt as more intimate than sex. Some couples may play separately, others may only play together. Just like with kink play, you just wanna have your rules and boundaries set up in advance.
There’s an understood rule in swinging, “no means no and don’t ask why” (because you may not want to know) Basically if you don’t want to play with someone, just politely say no thanks.
Swing clubs can get a little expensive in some places, but it’s a good way to get to know people. Also, make sure you’re clear on poly issues. Most swingers I know are not poly. The usual rule in the circles I’ve tread is “if you start to have feelings, it’s time to stop seeing that couple/person.” So if you are poly, it’s ok to tell a potential swing partner so, but don’t expect they’ll necessarily want to date.
It’s a fun thing, but it’s not for everyone. If you get into it and don’t like it, it’s no biggie. 🙂

Unfortunately though some swinging clubs can get pretty pretentious after they’ve been open for a while. My bf & I are looking to get back into it as well and cant decide how best to go about it. We were both in it before with different partners and have different ideas of what would be an easier/lower pressure way to delve back in. He’s used to playing directly with 1 couple that you meet from a site whereas I find parties to be a very low pressure way to mingle with like-minded folk and get a feel for any chemistry you might have with them. Do keep in mind though that it’s much more difficult finding chemistry between 4 people rather than 2 and if you don’t set up some kind of tell/safeword or way to indicate you’re not into someone you could end up in a “taking 1 for the team” situation which will likely put you off trying it again. But I would go into whatever situation with the idea that you don’t play unless everyone is into it. Don’t let other people or your inexperience expressing your needs/wants to put you in a situation you aren’t comfortable with.

Hi and welcome to the lifestyle! It will take you time to settle in, as what you will be exploring runs contrary to everyday rules and conventional morals, but don’t let this put you off. Sex with more than just one other person is completely natural and one of life’s great pleasures – my wife and I both agree on all that.

We have been swingers for 10 years now, and went through the various stages steadily. Looking back, we know that was right for us. First, we discussed the idea of swinging and were happy to give it a try. She was a bit more reluctant than me as she had worries about women being used as sex objects and that the swinging game was all about male lusts and pleasure (she was happy to find this is completely wrong!). We then visited a swinger club, and saw people in playrooms, fucking happily with others alongside them doing the same, while other people (like us) watched. We got nude and joined in, not interacting with others on this first visit. Sex surrounded by others was wonderful and any minor reservations we might have had soon went in the sexually-charged atmosphere of the playroom.

The next day we discussed everything, and both of us were keen to keep swinging and take things further. Rose was reluctant to fuck with another man at this stage, but was very keen to soft-swing, I was ready to fuck another woman but agreed to go at her pace. So on our next club visit we got talking to another couple in the bar and explained our situation. We went to a playroom, swapped partners and did everything short of fucking – when we were all ready we changed back to our own partners for that. We did that with two other couples on that visit and carried on that way for several more visits. Again, we discussed everything fully the days after.

A few months after we started, Rose felt ready for a full swap and when we found a couple to play with, we went “all the way” (with condoms). That was a major step in our evolution, and that evening we fucked with a second couple and ended the night joining in an orgy. We agreed next day that it all felt right and we both really wanted to continue swinging.

Now we were full or hard swingers, we found ourselves invited to join others in their homes for 4somes and sex-parties. We began inviting others back to our place for the same fun. Group-sex is now completely natural for us and has become a regular pleasure. We have made some really good friends; some we bareback with, some we holiday with, some we do both with. One discovery we made early on was that swingers are normal people who just love sex more than the average person.

So my advice would boil down to – 1. communicate, constantly; discuss things before you swing and analyze things afterwards; this helps dispel jealousy which can ruin things. 2. don’t rush, go at the pace of the slowest. 3. No means no, whoever you are playing with, don’t get talked into something you’re not happy with or ready for; 4. HAVE FUN! Swinging is all about expanding your horizons, pushing your boundaries. Live your fantasies – you will probably try bisexuality, DPing, GBing and may well love them!

Good luck, would love to know how you get on! Please post your experiences for everyone to read.

Well our rule is that we only swing together,so its a shared experience. And we are both bi/bicurious so we seek out situations where everyone can play with everyone. We don’t play on our own so we consider ourselves monogamish 🙂 we enjoy the shared experience of others

I was looking at one article that described Swinging as a conservative venture while Open Relationships was more of a liberal one.

when looking at it I could see the difference. Open relationships can be more about being free and unrestricted but still attached.

Swinging can be more about having a fun dinner with the neighbors like any other dinner party only it ends in fucking each other.

If these were the definitions I would presume that polyamory would be defined as an arrangement based on love and relationships as opposed to fucking and could apply to any kind of configuration.

My personal definition:

“Open relationship” is an umbrella term for all sorts of relationships such as swinging, polyamory, cuckolding, etc. Any relationship that is committed in one manner or another that isn’t closed-ended (monogamous), is an open relationship.

Swinging is just one type of open relationship.